Here is the general tidal wave crashing on the beach of our culture: “No one can tell you what you should do in regard to sexuality. The highest evil is preventing someone from having sex in any way…unless it involves children.” (Which I am sure this will soon change. I mean who are we to tell children what they can and cannot do? Apparently it is now wrong to even announce the gender of a child when they are born.)
If you are like me you have probably had your fill of seeing opinions for or against the Supreme Court Ruling on the Hobby Lobby Case.
In a nutshell here are the arguments:
For Hobby Lobby: Private companies should not be forced to pay for conscience violating birth control pills
Against: Hobby Lobby Hates Women! Get the boss out of my bedroom.
This is such a hot button issue because it brings to light a much deeper divide in our country. It is the same as all the other divides. It is a divide over what you believe about God.
Whether you agree or not, this country was founded on Christian values and principles. Sure there are many examples of where our nation got it wrong (slavery, racism, etc..). But, generally speaking since the foundation of our country the majority of individuals have believed that marriage is between a man and a woman. Sex should be reserved for marriage and marriage alone. This is the basic teaching of the Bible and of Jesus. The New Testament warns over and over about the harm of sex outside of marriage to both your body and your soul. The Old Testament gives a number of examples of how harmful sex can be with multiples wives, partners, etc.
The culture in the USA is in a major sexual shift. We are becoming “enlightened.” With the drugs we have today sex is freely available now more than ever.
The heart of the ideological war in our county is over SEX.
The loud voices of the media, liberal politicians, and college students everywhere are shouting, “there is no God and you should be able to do what is right in your own eyes.” Of course most don’t say it like this. In fact most would still identify themselves as Christians. But they are the type of Christians that think Jesus was a celestial nice guy that taught us how to tolerate everyone. I guess they forget about the part that His message was so radical that they murdered Him on a cross.
The stereotype seems to be that anyone who tells you that you cannot do something, particularly in regards to sex, is evil and a religious nut. The media stereotypes Christians as those right wing nuts who eat the “hate” chicken at Chick Fila and want to take away your right to have sex. This is at the heart of the matter
Some of the most contentious issues in our Nation:
1) Homosexuality, Same Sex marriage
2) Abortion and Birth Control
3) Transgender Issues
Most of the above listed issues are becoming more accepted by the country at large as permissible.
To be honest people who do not claim to be Christian should not be held to the standards of Christ. Lost people act lost. They are trying to find fulfillment in sex…however they will not find it. This will not change. It will only get worse. The only thing that is new is that now there are no laws to prevent all sorts of sexual deviance. The homosexual agenda has successfully, though falsely, made homosexual issues the civil rights issues of our day. Who you have sex with is a choice and not a civil right.
I want you to think about this question: Does sex matter to God?
Culture in general is not evil but culture can go in evil directions. Like an animal in heat, Christians must be SO CAREFUL not to chase after the culture in the area of sexual purity. The Bible does not teach us that we are simply more evolved animals. The Bible teaches us that we are fearfully and wonderfully made with a purpose and a calling on our lives to bring glory to God. It is not, nor will it ever be ok for anyone who bears the name of Christ to have sex outside of the heterosexual confines of a marriage relationship. Period!
I have fears and optimism for the next generation of Christians in the US.
My fear is that, in general they are accepting homosexual behavior ok with God. Can we who died to sin continue to live in it? May it never be! We must remember that we must hate that within ourselves that God hates, sin! We can never be ok with lusts and sex outside of what God says is ok. Sin brings death. We cannot love, in ourselves, or others that which brings death.
My optimism comes in the admission that the next generation will be more loving to homosexuals than the previous. They do not fear or vilify people who identify themselves as homosexual. Perhaps they will do a better job of reaching them with the Gospel of Jesus and providing them hope for freedom from a sexually perverse lifestyle.
What Does A Christian Do In Such A Culture Where Sex Is God?
Live Pure Lives
Don’t look at pornography or lust after someone who is not your spouse. Do not sleep with someone you are not married too. Do not entertain yourself with sexual content (movies, shows, books that make you think of sex with people other than your spouse)
1 Corinthians 6:18 Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. 19 Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, 20 for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body.
Teach Your Children What God Says About Sex.
Teach them that their bodies are valuable. Teach them that God has a plan for their sex life. Make sure you help them understand that sex is a good gift from God. His commands regarding sex are not to keep us from sex but to keep us for sex. Teach them that sex more than a physical exchange but a mingling of souls. Let them ask you questions. Be honest. Teach them the value of purity.
Do Not Seek To Shield Them…Teach Them.
Obviously there are some things you need to shield your children from. It is inevitable that they are going to see two men holding hands or two women kissing or even a commercial that shows a wholesome family with same sex parents. These are teachable moments. Be clear that as people who follow Jesus we love all people but God teaches us that these lifestyle choices are wrong and sinful. Teach them of the harmful physical affects caused by sex outside of marriage. When they are old enough give them the statistics from the CDC, “Gay, bisexual, and other men who have sex with men (MSM)a represent approximately 2% of the United States population, yet are the population most severely affected by HIV. In 2010, young gay and bisexual men (aged 13-24 years) accounted for 72% of new HIV infections among all persons aged 13 to 24, and 30% of new infections among all gay and bisexual men. At the end of 2010, an estimated 489,121 (56%) persons living with an HIV diagnosis in the United States were gay and bisexual men, or gay and bisexual men who also inject drugs.” Give them facts about the harmful physical illnesses caused by sex outside of God’s plan.
Stand Firm But Remember You Will Not Shout Someone To Your Side
Express your beliefs but do not get into shouting matches or arguments that are unfruitful with those who disagree with you. This is about as helpful as posting a Facebook meme about how awful president Obama is and then expect your liberal friends to want to be conservative. Not. Going. To. Happen.
Remember, just because the government now allows certain evils do not mean we must condone or accept them.
The signs outside of the Courthouse while waiting for the Hobby Lobby verdict read: “BOSSES OUT OF OUR BEDROOM!”
This can never be said of a Christian! Our Boss is Jesus. We can never take God out of our bedrooms or any other area of life. I pray that we would make pleasing Jesus our highest goal, not sexual fulfillment. I want to warn Christians not to make sexuality the god of their lives.
While Christians are winning fewer and fewer media and cultural debates we choose whether or not will win the private purity debate in our own lives. I encourage you, if you consider yourself a Christ follower to live a pure life and stand for what you believe God says about sexuality.
1 Peter 4:So then, since Christ suffered physical pain, you must arm yourselves with the same attitude he had, and be ready to suffer, too. For if you have suffered physically for Christ, you have finished with sin.* 2 You won’t spend the rest of your lives chasing your own desires, but you will be anxious to do the will of God. 3 You have had enough in the past of the evil things that godless people enjoy—their immorality and lust, their feasting and drunkenness and wild parties, and their terrible worship of idols.