High school is a crucial time in everyone’s life as you are really navigating what it means to be a young adult and what you are supposed to do with life. Coach Miller was one of my high school football coaches that led our FCA (Fellowship of Christian Athletes) and every time he saw me in the hallway he would smile and say, “Hermann, you’re a winner!” I don’t know if he meant it, but when he said it, I believed it. He made me feel like a winner. I have always wanted to make others feel that way.
Who is in your life that is a voice that reminds you of who you can and should be?
We all want to live life well and one of the best ways we can do that is to find someone who is ahead of us and learn from them. This is literally what the word disciple means in the New Testament. A disciple was someone who followed someone else.
I read somewhere that you become like the 5 people with whom you spend the most time. Think about those 5 people. Are those 5 people the people you want to be like? The next season of your life may look a lot like the current season of the people you are following.
One of my high school Sunday school teachers was also one of my football coaches and he told me when I was 15 that I was going to be a preacher. He saw something in me that I did not see in myself that sparked a dream in my life to tell others about the hope of Jesus.
Another pivitol voice in my life was my current Pastor. 13 years ago when I was just a young man about to get married he called me and said he saw something in me and wanted me to consider coming to be part of the ministry staff of the church I currently serve in. I told him, “No.” He did not take no for an answer and kept pursing me. I eventually said yes and it forever changed my life.
Thoughts become things and words become worlds. The people that you allow to speak into your life will be the ones that shape your future.
Who are your mentors?
Jesus had 12 that He invested in. The Apostle Paul was always bringing others along the journey with him.
A mentor will tell you the truth when you don’t want to hear it. They will try to say it in a way that you can receive it.
A mentor will encourage you when you get down.
A mentor will give you wisdom from their life that you don’t yet have. They let you borrow their wisdom and make it your own.
A good mentor will show you how to live well.
I am blessed to serve on a team where the four men I serve with are all around ten years older than me. All of them have families that I want to emulate. All of them are great husbands. They are great fathers. All of them have been faithful like I want to be. They mentor me each week whether they know it or not.
Who is your mentor? When you look at all the relationships in your life, find those people in your circle of influence that stand out as someone you would aspire to be. Hang around those people. Ask them for some of their most precious resource, their time. If you ask them for their time then don’t waste it.
Listen to them.
Learn from them.
Write down three names that come to mind of people you would like to have invest in you. Make a plan this week to make first contact with them about potentially helping you become a better you.