A tripwire is a passive triggering mechanism. Typically, a wire or cord is attached to some device for detecting or reacting to physical movement. Tripwires are frequently used in boobytraps, whereby a tug on the wire (or release of tension on it) will detonate the explosives.
Tripwires are almost invisible and usually when a soldier has discovered the wire it’s too late. These tripwires have killed thousands in battle over the years. I believe there are many tripwires that can be explosive in the home. It is important for dads to recognize these tripwires in their own lives before it is too late and they do permanent damage to their children and wives. It seems that so many people are damaged for life because of some wound their dad has inflicted upon their heart. Daddy wounds can take a lifetime to heal and sometimes never do. Here are 6 tripwires I believe all dad’s need to be careful not to cross
THE WORK WIRE – All me were made to work and a lazy man is really no man at all. If we are honest something happens when we get a family. We deeply love our children and our wife but coming home feels like a lot like work. It is work. The work of being a father and a husband is often more emotionally taxing than our actual job. In order to avoid the stress of dealing with problems at home many men simply work longer hours and use work as their excuse not to come home. Anyone who says that a stay at home mom does not work is crazy. I know if I were a stay at home mom there would be many days I would be glad to deal the corporate workplace instead of whining, potty training, and 1000’s of “I’m Hungry’s” and “She won’t share’s.” When you are tempted to work late remember that your time at home is short and your kid’s and wife desperately need you. You may bring home a paycheck, but it is even more important that your bring yourself home to serve your family.
THE CHECKOUT WIRE – I have heard so many ridiculous excuses. “I just don’t love the children’s mother any more.” “Doesn’t God want me to be happy?” “They are probably better off without me.” Men use these and other reasons to check out on their families. Real men stay. They make it work. They don’t abandon their children while pacifying their conscience with a monthly check. Go to counseling. Learn to forgive. Get in a small group at a church where you can get support. But for heaven sake DON’T QUIT!
THE HOBBY WIRE – Fishing, hunting, golf, exercise and any other hobby that you may love are wonderful ways to enjoy life and relieve stress. Be careful not to do them in excess. If you are going to have hobbies make sure they are things you can do with your children. Remember you will have time for hobbies when your children are gone.
THE VICARIOUS LIVING WIRE – If you are a dad you believe your children are special (If you don’t you should). You believe your son is particularly gifted at sports and your daughter is the best dancer and pianist in the bunch. I am glad you believe in your child. You should offer them healthy support and encourage them to do and be their best. But be careful not to push them to try to be something you want more than they do. Don’t be the dad that curses the umpire out at the game. Don’t be the dad that has a talk with or pay the little league coach to get your kid in the game. Don’t be the dad that pushes your child to excel so much in their particular field that they no longer enjoy the joy of childhood. Don’t try to make them the athlete, student, musician, or popular kid that you never were. Let them be who God made them to be and love them for who they are, whether they make it to the big leagues or not.
THE GROUCH WIRE – Maybe you are with them but you don’t have fun with them. You are so focused on them being perfect that you never take the time to laugh with them, tickle them, and play with them. Leave work at work. Turn of the TV and get off your phone. Don’t take your stress out on your children. I think we are all guilty of this one from time to time.
THE PORNOGRAPHY WIRE – This is one that is blowing up families everywhere. Whether you are the good dad with the secret habit or the man who doesn’t try to hide this issue. More families than ever are severely effected by the viral plague of pornography. Pornography turns people into objects. It turns your mind into an insatiable lust machine. It makes your wife feel unloved and insufficient. One result that may be most harmful is how it disturbs your children. Your son’s will likely take on your dirty habit and not be able to see women as the treasure that God made them. They will view young ladies as a object of their desire. Pornography makes you awkward around your little daughter especially if her body is changing. You cannot have your teenage daughter’s friend’s over without lusting after them and you cannot show affection towards your daughter as you should. You become awkward hugging her and giving her the innocent affection that she needs and craves from her father. If you can’t give it to her then she will find male attention somewhere. She will probably find some hormone crazed teenage boy who will be glad to give her attention in all the wrong ways. Your addiction could blow up her security for the rest of her life.